My Approach
I approach my work using somatic psychology or from a body-mind holistic perspective that is kink-centered and addresses who you are emotionally, physically, energetically, spiritually and sexually. My work is person-centered meaning I understand that every client has their own set of individual needs and desires, so I work with you to create a customized experience to meet your specific needs and desires. I am here to act as a guide and mentor to my clients and move them through a self-discovery journey that leads them to a more fulfilling, satisfying and empowering life, relationships and career.
The methodology I use to support people in personal development, somatic trauma healing and emotional regulation is known as The Kink-Embodiment Method™
This methodology is a trauma-informed, ethical approach to BDSM & kink for personal development, somatic trauma healing, and emotional regulation.
Below are the 5 Pillars of The Kink-Embodiement Method™ that I use to support my clients through their individual process.
Pillar 1: Foundations of Trauma & Nervous System Awareness
- Understanding the nervous system: fight, flight, freeze, fawn
- The role of somatic awareness in healing
- How trauma is stored in the body & how BDSM can support release
- Differentiating between healing kink and re-traumatization
- Core self-regulation practices before engaging in BDSM
Pillar 2: Consent, Boundaries & Power Dynamics
- Consent frameworks: informed, ongoing, and enthusiastic
- Understanding power exchange as a tool for empowerment
- Boundary-setting for both Dom/mes and subs in healing work
- How to guide clients in identifying personal limits and edges
- Preventing manipulation and coercion in kink spaces
Pillar 3: Somatic Practices & BDSM Integration
- How to incorporate somatic healing into BDSM scenes
- Using sensory play for nervous system regulation
- Breathwork, movement, and energy awareness in power play
- The role of subspace and top space in deepening self-awareness
- How to use pain, pleasure, and sensation for emotional release
Pillar 4: Ethical Considerations & Client Readiness
- Screening clients for trauma readiness
- When to refer out to therapists and mental health professionals
- Common ethical pitfalls in BDSM-informed coaching
- Cultural considerations & dismantling stigma around kink
- Personal responsibility & self-reflection as a practitioner
Pillar 5: Application, Integration & Ongoing Support
- How to guide clients in processing their experiences
- Journaling, aftercare, and debriefing techniques
- Long-term emotional regulation through BDSM practices
- Creating a supportive community for practitioners and clients
- Expanding professional practice with BDSM-informed methodologies
This work can include somatic psychology, somatic work, parts work, energy work, spiritual practices, kink and BDSM somatic practices, sacred sexuality practices, coaching and talk therapy. The process I take you through includes 15 years of experience with extensive education and training in leadership development, psychology, physiology, somatic therapy, trauma training, spinal energetics, somatic EMDR, kink and BDSM training, to include pursuit of a PhD in Psychology specializing in somatic psychology.
This is a safe and judgement-free space where you can feel comfortable exploring your deepest desires. My intention is to create a space where you feel empowered and in control, while also pushing your edges as you explore your desires. So let's create a personalized plan that works for you and start on this journey together.
This is depth work.
This is leadership work.
This is emotional work.
This is embodied work.